Creating Connection In Your Relationships
Have you ever found yourself lost in your thoughts?
By “lost” I mean there’s more attention on what you’re saying, the thoughts and story, rather than on the person with whom you’re sharing the story, or the connection between you and that person.
I know for myself, I tend to use a lot of words to express myself, especially when I am feeling overly excited, nervous, or scared. I’ve found that when I get more focused on words and story, I lose touch with myself, and the person I am with. It’s challenging because one of my deepest desires is to connect with people, and yet when I get caught up in my mind, by sharing stories, rather than being present with the person I am with, I loose touch with the very thing I desire.
Has this ever happened to you? If so, I invite you to do the following….
The next time you find yourself in thinking/story mode, take notice, and fully welcome the experience. Say something like… “Oh, I’m noticing I am in story mode,” or “I notice I am talking from my head space.” What’s important here is to notice what you are doing, without judgement, and without necessarily trying to change anything. Just notice.
From this place of noticing, I invite you to breathe. That’s right breathe. Better yet, take 2 or 3 deep breaths. With each breath, notice the sensation of air as it enters, fills, and exits your body. Allow your attention to enter your body with each breath, and let your body to open and receive each breath. Allow your body to breathe.
This simple act of noticing when you are in thinking mode, and breathing, will help you get out of the mind and into your body. It’s like a meditation.
Give it a try.
I bet you’ll experience a sense of more openness and expansiveness, more connection, with yourself and with those around you.
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